Why?
- Why do I have to stay away to get close to someone?
- Why are decisions which are meant to bring better things in life always end up being painful?
- Why is it difficult to express myself where I should?
- Why do I spew it 'in-the-face' when I should hold myself back?
- Why is there racism in this world?
- Why is it a big deal to go out with someone from outside my nationality/color/religion?
- Why does being open make one vulnerable to contempt in certain situations?
- Why does going to Church imply that I should believe in Jesus? Or that I am moving away from "my religion"?
- Why am I in a country where I only have work friends?
- Why am I fighting in life and how long would I survive?
- Why am I even writing all this?
posted by Ujjwal at 11/04/2006 12:05:00 AM
42 Comments:
i think most people just live for others...not themselves...precisely why i dont relate to anyone
we all try to get ahead in the rat race...ONLY to satisfy the audience watching in the stands...
Life is a joke...so laugh at it...and then watch it laugh right back at you...
I hurt myself today...to see if i still feel
I focus on the pain, the only thing that's real
what have I become?...my sweetest friend
everyone I know...goes away in the end
@rio comment 1:I trust what you say, though at some point most of us do also realize what you mention. And how many people have the time to be sitting in the stands..coz they are also in some sort of a rat race too..a rat race to watch other's race maybe..
Why do I have to stay away to get close to someone?
... cos the person has lesser time to judge you and hate you.
Why are decisions which are meant to bring better things in life always end up being painful?
... cos they were never meant to be the things that bring better things...
@ Rio comment 3: The last two lines are precisely how I have been feeling all week long. I dont feel happy at getting a job. I dont feel like working with school. I am tired after 12 hours of sleep. Something somewhere is amiss. And I know whats bothering me!
Why is it difficult to express myself where I should?
... cos humans are twisted beings... they can never see things straight...else we wudnt be here...
Why do I spew it 'in-the-face' when I should hold myself back?
...defense mechanism
Why does what others think affect u?
Why do u question the way u are?
Will the answers to the questions be of any use to u?
Why is there racism in this world?
... www.ratm.com...
@zoxcleb: Now, thats interesting. I never questioned the person I am. I am just questioning the manner in which one is supposed to behave/lead life which is irritating me this last week. Why am I looking into this? Because it helps me negotiate the blind turns in an underground tunnel without being bruised too much. Or else, one may choose to be totally unaffected by what others think.
I, choose to be human!
Why is it a big deal to go out with someone from outside my nationality/color/religion?
...its not a big deal...those who make it a big deal...are just SOCIALLY CONDITIONED and CULTURALLY PROGRAMMED.......statically.
I dont feel happy at getting a job. I dont feel like working with school. I am tired after 12 hours of sleep. Something somewhere is amiss. And I know whats bothering me!
Then go fix it!! Or are u looking for a hire to do the job!
@ zoxcleb comment 2: Had it been that easy, why would have I written question # 3?
Sometimes, the solution is not entirely in one's hand. Its not a mutually exclusive effort dude!
Why does being open make one vulnerable to contempt in certain situations?
cos...people luv to judge...so that they can hate u...
Why does going to Church imply that I should believe in Jesus? Or that I am moving away from "my religion"?
...ORGANISED FAITH...is always based on loose morals and principles...they are dogmas which face the threat of extinction...hence the need to force them...
I am just questioning the manner in which one is supposed to behave/lead life which is irritating me this last week.
What exactly is it that caused the irritation??
helps me negotiate the blind turns in an underground tunnel without being bruised too much. Any significance to the underground tunnel? Why not a tunnel thru a mountain?
I, choose to be human!
That error could be fatal, my friend!
Why am I in a country where I only have work friends?
...ans: www.ini.cmu.edu... who let the dogs (&bitches) out?
Why am I fighting in life and how long would I survive?
... watch "fight club" again...u will survive for as long as u hate ur life...
if u wanna die...just enjoy life...
Why am I even writing all this?
... we all need portals... take it or leave it...WTFC
Its not a mutually exclusive effort dude!
Yes I know. It never is. In that case there is not much u can do. and worrying never fixed a broken bridge.
@zoxcleb comment 3: Significance of the underground is more to do with my state of mind right now. Down!
Irritation is on the way society has its norms and regulations on human behavior.
Well, also I cannot be a saint ( and I am happy at that). I am happy being the human who feels the pain and happiness from time to time. Thats what God has in store for me!
@ rio: "if u wanna die...just enjoy life..."
The other way round is also true..isn't it?
@Zoxcleb comment 4: "Yes I know. It never is. In that case there is not much u can do. and worrying never fixed a broken bridge."
What does one do then? Is it not just human to worry about things? As i said, I may choose to ignore, but that does not change the fact of the matter. Or for that matter, as you said, it will never be a solution either. I guess temporarily one should reflect on what happened, grasp, learn and then move on.
I have not reached the move on stage on this one yet!
Well, also I cannot be a saint
thats not what i meant!!
I guess temporarily one should reflect on what happened, grasp, learn and then move on.
thats probably the best way to deal with it.. but for that u have to be some sort of cold analytical machine. not human, as u claim to be.
What does one do then?
well not much. giving up is too easy. holding on is too painful.
@Zoxcleb comment 5: "u have to be some sort of cold analytical machine. not human, as u claim to be."
Not that well defined. Its rather the submissiveness that one feels sometimes which leads one to take a deep breath and let go a situation.
too many qs... but meaningful nevertheless... and the answer is simple... be what you wanna be... who you wanna be.. live your life the way u wanna... As Rio said... Live for urself...
@ Rupsha: In theory, yes, saying is very easy!
Do you remember that yourself all the time? My post and questions also reflect on us being mortal beings and not saints. And hence commiting some kind of an error or bearing a fallacy in life is sometimes justifies.
Whats important is to look out for these and weed them out.
give them time to reflect about what it is that you have added to their life... they will love you for that.
painful... I don't think so. It's how much importance are you ready to attach to the situation. And if the effort is painful, then its not worth it, because you are then not enjoying doing it, and consequently will not bring happiness to the person you are doin it 4.
Silence is golden, man!
Get some control over yourself. Anyways, from the perspective of someone who is elder you in age atleast, my advice is you will need to learn it sometime. Simply, if you need to spew it in the face, its not worth the effort. Where really required, patient explanation will suffice.
Give the earth another 1000 years, and you would not need to bother about it. Don't belive. Read this!
Hmm... no experience there. Only people from my kinda background. Guess had you been european or australian or some such, it would not be such a big deal.
Think about people like me, who havent visited a temple in the past 6+ years. What do you think that makes me - an atheist or an agnostic. You would be surprised to know that I firmly believe in God. Its as Rio said - people are conditioned to think that way. On a lighter note - people must be thinking that you want to convert to get the girl you like... :)
Ah! the sacrifices that you need to make to move up the social ladder, or should I say economic ladder. Come back to open arms man!
Simple, you survive till there is hope in you! Beyond that not a moment more will you.
You have been working too hard. Stop and smell the roses, I say! Don't life pass by! In this regard the bengalis of Kolkata are the best.
yup.. i will agree that it's easier said than done... and i fall prey to this too... but then time n again i remind myself that i shud live by my own free will...
Life is anything but questions, dont question it, you will never get the answer, just keep living it, the answers will come to you.
why is everything in life easier said than done?
or is that not supposed to be part of our life?
mortal beings and not saints
is there no middle ground with u? saints or sinners...
enter the shades of grey!
Why do the decisions which are meant to bring better things in life often end up being painful?
If you are speaking of relationships, the risk of trust is the gamble of love. Most things in life can be assessed with respect to risk and return- high risk, high return. We know love has high return, therefore, high risk (of trust) is implicit. A similar assessment applies to non-relationship decisions.
-Ev
Why do the decisions which are meant to bring better things in life often end up being painful?
If you are speaking of relationships, the risk of trust is the gamble of love. Most things in life can be assessed with respect to risk and return- high risk, high return. We know love has high return, therefore, high risk (of trust) is implicit. A similar assessment applies to non-relationship decisions.
-Ev
Why is there racism in this world?
Racism exists in volume not due to its ease of being created, rather its ease of being preserved. From one generation to the next racism gets preserved by being taught to following generations. When a child is young he is extremely receptive (consider ease of learning a new language). From a young age a children is easily taught to be racists or that they are superior to another because some characteristic or possession. One can say that it simply ignorance. It is also function of upbringing. Whether a parent teaching a child, or a child growing up with no exposure to some race(this partially includes ignorance), that that child will probably become a racist. A sure fire cure of it is to raise a person from childhood in an environment with positive role models of the target race/sex/whatever. Racism is created because of bad experiences, if poor people of a race pull a gun on you or robbed you or caused another traumatic experience, then one may generalize that bad experience and generalize the person to conclude that all people like
Why does going to Church imply that I should believe in Jesus? Or that I am moving away from "my religion"?
A generalization. One is presumed to do things for a reason. The reason for going to church is presumed to be (at least a partial) agreement of the doctrine. Believing in Jesus is presumed to be a primary doctrine of the church. Therefore, one presumes that a person who goes to church believes in Jesus.
A presumption of belief in religion A over religion B would be concluded when more external resources (such as time) are spent on religion A then religion B. However, from my view, one's external actions are not necessarily an accurate representation of ones internal feelings and beliefs. However, external actions are the best (nearly only) assessment of internal feelings.
Why am I even writing all this?
You wrote all this because your an introspective philospher who like to heard other people's thoughts.
.. well the questions are good . . but the point is you need not think about this questions now as .. .. you will be better placed answering this questions as and when they come .. .. but if you ask me I certainly have got answers to all those questions !! !! !! and I m pretty sure that you too have them whenever you face them !! !!
@Ev: I guess I pretty much cleared out everything in our long talk after Church and breakfast this morning.
@Snehal: I am facing these questions and am definitely finding answers to some of them. Is great to feel the growth within.
Amen.
Nothing more, nothing less.
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